This post is about Twitter. In a way.
It’s more about the meaning of Twitter. As if social media has any real meaning
It’s about friendship. And business. And my friend Kay Ballard.
Ya’ll remember Kay?
She’s been mentioned many times on my blog as the brains behind the #Soiree Twitter hashtag party, and her Women Are Not Funny Radio gig.
Although Kay and I never met “in person,” we enjoyed many hours together on the phone.
So many great conversations about vanity, corporate America, original art, being southern (hailing from Virginia, Kay *thought* she was) ,aging parents, online biz strategies, sweet tea, and the predicament of our country’s health care system. Yes, she relished interesting topics. (OK, sweet tea may not be rocket science, but we take it seriously in our part of the country!) She was also extremely interested in my projects. In an older-sister type way.
She knew how to throw vinegar. In a polite way, of course. She had no use for shabby work. Not just from herself but it was unacceptable from me too.
That’s what real friends do.
They are allowed to be brutally honest with you. Yes, sometimes her critiques could sting. But, in the long run, I was always grateful for her honesty. She made my work better. Or should I say, she made me make my work better!
She interviewed me several times for Women Are Not Funny Radio. We always ended up laughing more than talking. She said we had good “chemistry.”
I never brought it up.
It was there though. She would quietly say, “I’ve got to go, the nurse just came in.” On the one occasion I asked about her weight, she said, “If I turn sideways, you can’t see me!”
That was Kay!
She joked and made light of even the worst situations. I love her for that. And I admire her for that. And, I want the world to know that she was someone who, in the midst of the most terrifying personal storm, chose to poke fun. And laugh. And be.
She was a character who created characters out of her Twitter friends. There was @PattiDigh, (her self-proclaimed arch enemy) and @DanLopez (her fellow insomniac). There was also a host of admirers and sparring partners: @lilpecan, @NELLYWAITS, @Daniel4is, @apothecaryjeri, @lynnwalsh, to name a few.
I am attempting to do the impossible. Convey to you the essence of someone important to me. Someone who showed me the power of social media. What it could really be used for. And how our lives are never the same because of it.
Twitter. Who knew??
Kay and I were kindred spirits. Chatty, blond business women with law degrees who actually thought we could change the world. OK, not the whole wide world, but our corner of it.
Lest you think I am the lone ranger in this story, I assure you I’m not. The truth is there is a whole gaggle of folks just like me. Who met Kay on Twitter and followed her faithfully. She made Twitter fun because she was engaging. She’s an example of creating meaningful relationships on Twitter.
How she did it. . .
See for yourself. Here’s a few tweets from her stream:
KayBallard: We must never forget that worry can cause wrinkles and that being sad is mostly a waste of time. <3
KayBallard: I am away on a glamorous secret mission, slightly disappointed that you are expressing caring and concern instead of envy. LOL!
KayBallard: I hate to boast, but @DrPerricone rarely forgets to tell me Goodnight.
KayBallard: Whew! If I get it wrong, I can count on it. Someone will step up and tell me. LOL!
Do you see how it’s done? Kay would tweet out comments that could and would start conversations. She was an expert at that! Her wit and humor were contagious.
And people would follow. . . .
My final phone conversation with Kay was last month. We talked about my book and the meaning of being a best-selling author. (Of course, she said it had no meaning!) We laughed and joked and then I had to cut it short because of a prior appointment. She quickly said, “Ok, talk to you soon. Bye.”
That was it.
She lost her fight with cancer on May 18th.
I am still missing my friend. We will probably have a final #Soiree to celebrate Kay’s life. It may be a “first” on Twitter. Kay’s own Twitter bio reads:
I can assure you, for someone who “outsourced” her morning greeting on Twitter, her adorable and modest self would definitely think the whole idea was funny!
p.s. And for those of you who think social media is not relevant, you’re just plain wrong.