The Unstuck Business


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Are you stuck?  It happens to the best of us!  It’s time to learn how to get in the “unstuck” business!

The scenario usually goes something like this:  You make a decision (or don’t make a needed one) and it turns out to be a costly mistake for your biz.  At this point, you have two choices.  To stay there, moaning and groaning and getting “stuck” dwelling on the mistake or move on and keep your focus on your ultimate success.

It just happened to me!

I had a setback.  It was my own fault and it was costly.  Both in time and money.  Instead of brushing it off, accepting the consequences and making remedies, I continued to play it over and over in my head.  Coulda, woulda, shoulda for days!

That proved to be costly too!

In time, energy, and income.  My wake-up call came in the form of a conversation with a business associate.  After hearing my sad story, she simply said, “forgive yourself.”

That’s IT?

Yes, even in business, you have to forgive yourself so you can get “unstuck.”  If you make a misstep or costly mistake (and eventually we all do), accept it, learn from it, and keep moving forward.

Are you tripping over yourself?

In my case, I was spending my time and energy continuing to look at the mistake, think about it, blame myself, feel guilty – you name it.  Negativity with a capital N.  What did that do to my productivity?  Stopped in its tracks.

I no longer was moving forward.  By keeping my thoughts in the past, by dwelling on the the shoulda, woulda, coulda’s, I was preventing the get to’s, going to’s, and want to’s from happening.  Wow!

Preventing my own biz from thriving!

Do you think there’s a connection between your success and your thinking?

I can assure you there is.  If you stay in the past and continue to dwell on the negatives, you are putting yourself in a “stuck” position.  Do you recognize this behavior in yourself?  If so, let me give you a little advice.  Change it!

The sooner, the better!

Write down the positive side to your business. Where you are going, what it will feel like on the other side of the current hurdle and then get moving.  Get ready for the success that’s coming your way!

I know.  When you come to this blog you want some concrete business tips.  Something about blogging, building your website, social media secrets, etc.  You don’t want to hear about controlling your thoughts!

Here’s what I know . . . .

Once your thinking has the right focus, a nice successful business will follow.

I had a setback.  It wasn’t the first and won’t be the last.  And now I know the setbacks aren’t what make us “stuck.”

Sometimes the biggest stumbling block to your online success is YOU!

Learn from my lesson.  Forgive yourself, get unstuck, and move on!



 The Unstuck Business

Martha Giffen

Martha Giffen is a Small Business and Social Media Consultant, Coach, Trainer, and Speaker. The author of 3 best-selling books, including "Be Social Be Rich," she is an Online Marketing authority and teaches Small Biz Owners how to achieve massive profitable success. And, -she dishes it all out with a warm southern flare!

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Yvonne A Jones September 2, 2010 at 7:24 pm

I believe that even if we do not admit it to ourselves, we strive for perfection, and when we fail to live up to the lofty standards (way above everyone else) that we’ve set for ourselves, we get so down and critical of ourselves. We are so much quicker to forgive others…than we are to forgive ourselves.
“Controlling your thoughts” has a direct impact on who we are and on our businesses so if that’s the message you have to convey, Martha, then we want to hear it because I believe most of us have been guilty of the same thing. I know, I have. Thanks for being transparent and sharing your story.


Sheila Atwood September 2, 2010 at 10:31 am

Good to wee you on the move again.

I have found myself doing the same thing. And it is such a waste. But I think it is part of not wanting to make the mistake again. Regret makes it hard to stand back and look at the mistake and how it happened so you can avoid the mistake in the future.


Kathryn Griffiths September 2, 2010 at 9:25 am

So many of out errors are made because of our lack or knowledge or experience in a particular area… it’s just part of the growing process. (Boy do I make plenty of those.) The mistakes that bother me is when I go against my own judgment and gut feeling.

Recently I made a decision to follow more closely my own calls. I seem to be making less errors. However… when I slip up… I cuss myself for a few minutes and move on.

Thanks for the post… it’s a reminder that we all make errors. Not only should we “let it go” and move on but recognize others make errors too and not be critical or unkind. It’s one way we can support each other in this amazing business.


Linda McKinnon September 1, 2010 at 5:34 pm

Excellent advice. I can take to heart right now. Thanks!


Martha September 1, 2010 at 12:32 pm

Cathy, you are so right! I have a cousin who has the saying, “In 100 years, it will be all new people!” LOL

Shileen, we are definitely on the same wave length. Thanks for your input :)


Shileen @ The Wonder Woman Challenge September 1, 2010 at 11:37 am

Martha, I really appreciate your post. It is similar to one I just posted this week but more from a personal standpoint than business. I really understand and I am really appreciating your wisdom. It is so important that we forgive ourselves whenever we “screw up” in any aspect of our lives. Forgiveness is freeing … yes, it really does set us free to move on. Thank you for our timely message!! Blessings!!


Cathy Miller September 1, 2010 at 10:53 am

Love this post. It reminded me of my #5 on 5 Things I Learned From the Ultimate Blog Challenge – Stop Trying So Hard. We get so hung up on perfection that we become paralyzed.

That doesn’t mean we give a half-hearted effort, but when we screw up, learn from it and move on – easier said than done sometimes.

My brother used to always ask – in 100 years, is it really going to matter? Puts it in perspective.


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